“What a child doesn’t receive he can seldom later give” P.D. James
Time! Do you have time? Time for your children? Time for your teenager?
Everyday, in my work with young people, I hear the same sad statement “my parents are too busy for me!” Everyday I hear the same sadder statement “if I tried to talk to them they wouldn’t listen, so I don’t!”
But one of the even sadder things I hear is “they think I need someone to talk to!”
Yes dear parents, you are so right, they do need someone to talk to – YOU!
We are all guilty!
None of us are perfect and none of us alone!
I am a parent, I am a single parent and I have made mistakes, many mistakes. So many times I was too busy, so many times everything else was more important. But it wasn’t! And I learnt! I learnt because I listened!
Our children crave quality time. A fraction of our day. They have so much to say. And if the ironing is more important or the ferrying to dance, art class, football – ask yourself why? Because if you can not stop for one moment and listen, you may look back with regret.
Everyday I hear stories from young people about their lives, sometimes the stories are heartbreaking – self harm, risky behaviour, low self esteem, lack of confidence, a need to be heard, to be accepted, to feel wanted – the list never ending. My job? To support, to inspire, to improve their confidence and raise their aspirations.
But I also hear the stories of their sunshine, their fun, what makes them laugh, what makes them smile, their hopes and their dreams for the future and I am always in awe of the privileged position I am in – please don’t miss your chance to learn.
Recently an ex-student said to me “Miss, you listened to me and showed me how to believe in myself, I will never forget that – thank you” I nearly burst with pride but then the sadness always hits hard when you hear a comment like that, for it should have been said to a parent.
Our children are young for such a short time, a breath, a moment and we need to keep close those that we love, for none of us know what tomorrow will bring.
Inspired by: Are our kids just another thing we multitask?
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Project 365 – Day 41 – 10th February 2013 – I think this photograph says it all
Our generation. – and this made me smile